So I had my car serviced and took a public transport going home when Toto’s 1986 hit blurted out on the UV’s car stereo. Manong driver turned the volume up a notch and started singing. His voice was surprisingly good. However, as he sang the lyrics, my brain was also singing. I was dissecting the song word per word, and I realized that the song was a happy, victorious one. Toto’s song was a song of mustering strength and courage. It was not just a song of moving on but also of slow acceptance— happily. The way I see it, the singer stresses that in time, no matter how long, he will accept things. He will eventually stop anticipating but he cannot forget his former love, that is impossible, and he knows that.[Read more…]
Did you know that codependency fits everyone to greater or lesser degrees? – At least, that’s exactly what Ruth Morehouse, Ph.D. and co-director of world-known Marriage & Family Health Center says.
If so, we should also admit the fact that the risk of finding ourselves in unfulfilling, dishonest relationships that feature emotional fusion is very high. Moreover, such unhealthy codependency can pervade any kind of interactions from work to family connections.
But still, codependency is not recognized as a distinct personality disorder by any version of the DSM. Thus, the codependent behavior is not something you should be afraid of – it’s something you should just be able to identify, treat, and overcome in order to live a fuller and happier life.
And we’ll tell how to do it step by step:
Social media has been a part of my life ever since I can remember. I connect with loved ones, share opinions and interests, learn something new among others. It helps me in many ways that I can’t imagine the world without it. It makes my life more comfortable and convenient.
Until it took over me.
It becomes my air – I breathe it, I live with it every single day. I grab my phone whenever I get the chance. I aimlessly click, post and share without realizing I’d wasted hours. I get obsessed with numbers – likes, favorites, and followers. I constantly check for updates from friends and later on comparing myself to them. I read and listen to lots of opinions. My mind is filled with figures, images, and words that I am overwhelmed with them and I drown.
I decided to take a break.
Being accustomed to the chaos and noise of the online world, solitude and silence are new to me. It is deafening. I thought I would go crazy. But I didn’t give up because I know it’s what I need. After a few days of adjustment, I got the hang of it. The stillness becomes a part of my new routine. [Read more…]
You know too well that I adore you more than anything. You know in your heart that my whole being clings to you like glue. There is not one minute that I do not think of you and there is not one second that I do not whisper your name. I have devoted nights and days memorizing the contours of your face. My ears have already remembered each note, reverb, bass, tune, and echo of your voice. Please know that you made me shine and made me the person who I am today. You discovered my darkest closet and with match and tinder, you burned it so that I may start anew. I was not on top of your list when you found me, but you made me look like a champion in your own accord. [Read more…]
I am a solo parent. It is one tedious yet fulfilling task and I am enjoying every single moment of it. It has downsides though. All the sleepless nights thinking about where in the world you would get money for tuition fees and such. It is tiring, to be honest. I may not be a single mother but I share their sentiments, Hell, I share their anger. Being ridiculed and judged sickens us. We did not ask for this but we welcomed it amidst the pain, the tears and most of the time the loneliness. We try our best to make ends meet and provide our children with love and attention. Being a solo parent is not a walk in the park, rather it is an obstacle course we need to finish because if not our kids will suffer. [Read more…]