I am a solo parent. It is one tedious yet fulfilling task and I am enjoying every single moment of it. It has downsides though. All the sleepless nights thinking about where in the world you would get money for tuition fees and such. It is tiring, to be honest. I may not be a single mother but I share their sentiments, Hell, I share their anger. Being ridiculed and judged sickens us. We did not ask for this but we welcomed it amidst the pain, the tears and most of the time the loneliness. We try our best to make ends meet and provide our children with love and attention. Being a solo parent is not a walk in the park, rather it is an obstacle course we need to finish because if not our kids will suffer. [Read more…]
It’s that time of the year again! I know that everyday is always a special day to celebrate all the sacrifices and love of our mothers. But since the world have given them the day to make it an extra special day, let’s celebrate it with all the wonderful moms in the world!
When you ask your mom what she likes to receive this Sunday, I know that the common answer will be “Bahala ka na” or “Kahit wag na, ‘nak.” That is because moms are really non-materialistic people. They would rather choose to give than to receive. Moms are always the people who like to buy things for their children. It is like a duty to them, a responsibility that they love to do. So, when you are thinking to give something to your mom, make sure that it is extra special. Make sure that this gift is something that they can use.
When you give something to a person that is so dear to you. You will make sure that this gift is exceptional, too. I am not saying of an expensive gift, because you can always make a memorable gift that is affordable. What matters most is that it came from the bottom of your heart. Show that you really made an effort for this gift.
Here are some gift ideas that you can give to your mom this Mother’s day: [Read more…]
We may always think that we can be great in our simple ways. Doing things that might be new to us and feeling proud to do something. But, behind those simple achievements that we have made there is one person who’s always behind our back through ups and down. Mother’s Day may be a week over, but honoring our mother and those whom we consider as mother figures shouldn’t be limited on that day alone. It will never be too late to express how we love our moms and it will be better to share things that we have learned from them. I’ll start by saying that my Mama may not be that perfect, but for me she is the best! She taught us a lot of things that will be beneficial on our life. Sharing her cooking and some baking skills are one of the things I love the most. But, most of all she taught me to be strong and always stand to what I know is right. To be kind, respectful and generous to anyone and just give the best that I can. To make decisions on our own for she believes that’s the only way for us to realize that life will never be easy and they will not always be there to guide us. She wants us to be independent and wise in everything that we do. I’ll be forever grateful for she doesn’t get tired of taking care of us, for she always want us to be a better person.
What my co-authors learned from their moms or to those they consider as their mom:
The best lesson I’ve learned from my mom is to be kind. At all times. People won’t remember you for how you looked, how you talked, what you wrote, the clothes you wore, or how you styled your hair. But they will remember you for the way you treated them—good or bad. So, be kind. Even when times are tough or people don’t treat you the way you want to be treated, be kind. Always.
My mom has instilled a lot of values to my siblings and I. As years pass by, we imbibed them. She taught us to respect and love one another, to have strong faith in God, to become what we want, and to be good to others, to name a few. As a mom, she never fails to remind us that being a good person will lead you to a long way. That is why we strive hard to become the best person that we can be. I wouldn’t know where I am right now without my mom. With all the sermons that I get from her, I definitely learned a lot. I am deeply grateful for having her around all the time. Things might get tough at times, but I will always remember what my mom has taught us. I may not be the best daughter a mother could have, but I assure my mom that I will do my best to make her proud. Life is way more bearable and wonderful with my mom. And I am honored to be her daughter. I love you, Mama!
I learned from my mother that women are the ones who hold relationships together. In the face of any difficulty, as long as a woman doesn’t give up even if the other people involved have already given up, as long the mother/wife/girlfriend doesn’t, then things can still be fixed. Through this, I learned strength from my mother who has never given up and has fought hard to keep the family together.
I grew up having two moms and I’m so grateful with that. They taught me a lot about life. My mommy taught me how to dream big and strive for happiness while nana taught me to become practical when it comes to things.
Although, they both have different views on things, still, I was able to apply it in my life. I love them both and because of them I became a better person.
What I’ve learned from my late lola, who was the one who raised us three, is to sacrifice everything for the one you loved. She loved us three that despite of her age, she was willing to run our little food business from going to the market in the morning to cook and sell till evening to support our education and give us all we need. My lola did lots of sacrifices first to her 7 children and then to three of her grand children – it’s me and my two siblings. It’s hard to do but if you truly love someone, you will do anything even if there’s nothing left for you. Truly loving your family and being strong for them are the things I learned from my nanay-lola that make me so grateful to the Lord. Happy Mother’s Day to my lola in heaven. I love you!
My mother is my teacher, my friend, my confidant, my enemy, and many more. She has been in the past 25 years and I am happy that she is always there to push me to become who I am today. She is ever supportive, even if I am not always there to help her. What did I learn from here? A lot! The best lesson I learned from my mom is to not depend on other people. She told me that if I can do it on my own, then don’t ask for someone else’s help. If I need something badly, don’t borrow other people’s things; buy it if I have too. She told me this in high school, after helping so many of my friends, but I never received any help from them whenever I need one. I also learned how to cook, fold my clothes, wash the dishes, tie my shoes, wash my clothes, clean the house, and say ‘s’ properly without being bulol.
How about you, what are the things you’ve learned from your mom? Feel free to share it with us!
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I welcomed motherhood unprepared. My husband and I didn’t really make plans to have a baby at that time. Besides, we were still enjoying our lives as carefree yuppies. And I still had a lot of worrying and planning to do in my own life.
When I found out I was pregnant with my first child, I felt like my world was about to collapse. I thought of all the promises I made to my parents, and how I was going to hurt and disappoint them once they found out. It turned out better than I expected, though. I’m just glad they supported me all the way.
Looking back, I still can’t believe that a little person was once growing inside me. I had this angel inside my womb, with a heart beating differently from mine, but it’s beating with mine. I couldn’t believe it—not until I reached my third trimester and his little legs started kicking. It was something only mothers, like us, will ever feel. I thought it was the most joyous moment of my life.
An unfortunate situation happened during my pregnancy. On my 33rd week, I was admitted to the hospital and the doctor told me that I was to stay there until it was safe to gave birth. It was on my 35th week that they decided that my son should come out already, because it was getting dangerous for both of us. It wasn’t even my due date yet, and I didn’t know if it was safe enough.
Those were the most stressful days of my life. Worrying about my child’s life, and worrying for mine, too. I did not stop praying to God to give me strength and for a safe delivery. Because I know that it should not end there. I need to be a mom. My son needs me. And I have to be strong for both of us. Motherhood does not only mean sacrifice but being responsible. Thank God because after staying three weeks at the hospital, we were both safe and healthy.
Being a first time mom isn’t easy, but it’s not difficult either. Being a first time mom is challenging, because it will test your patience and your faith to your self. You have to wake up every two hours to feed your little one, change his diaper, and check if he’s okay. You will stay awake at until the wee hours of the morning, and probably get sleep when the sun’s already up. You barely have enough time to take a shower, because he needs your undivided attention and most probably wake up when he doesn’t feel you near.
Being a working mom is not easy, too. I travel from Laguna to Makati, five days a week at three hours a day. I stay at the office for nine hours. When I get home, I take some time to bond with him. Then feed him, make him sleep, and clean his bottles. That’s the only time my husband and I get to eat dinner, have a conversation, and then go to sleep. Being a mom means staying strong and healthy for your family.
Being a mom means not having a thriving social live, by the world’s standards at least. You won’t be able to join your friends for gatherings and events. You have a little time for movies and dinners. Sometimes, you will think of it and feel bad about yourself, but when you realize that you are sacrificing these times because of your child, then you’ll know it’s worth it. Every minute with your kid is precious.
I remember my husband and I talking about us being too possessed by our son now. We remind ourselves to take this opportunity to be with him always, to give him all the love he needs—because we both know that when he grows up, becomes independent, we can no longer kiss him or hug him always. That is why, we always enjoy every moment we’re together.
To become a mother isn’t difficult, to be a mother is.
Everyone can be a mother if they want to bear a child. But not everyone is capable of being one, and making sacrifices and taking responsibility. Being a mom means being selfless but loving. It means being deprived of sleep, of social life, and even a time for yourself. But despite all the difficulties, I can still say that being a mother is amazing.
Two years ago, a friend asked me about what I was afraid of. Unlike other girls, I am not afraid of cockroaches, getting dark skin, or gaining weight. I was adventurous, a risk-taker before I became a mom. I loved to travel, climb mountains, and go island hopping with my friends. I was almost fearless. But, that was two years ago. If I get asked the same question again, I now know a concrete answer: not being a mother.
Happy Mothers’ Day to all the mothers out there!
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