Growing up as the youngest in the family can be a struggle only another youngest child will understand. Other people will say to not be so petty, but they’re probably the people who bullied and still bully their younger siblings.
High school is one of the darkest times of our lives. It’s the period of rebellion, and the desire to be independent is strong. You want to go out with friends by yourself, not with someone else tagging along. Yet, the entire family have a hard time letting you go. You’re lucky if they finally let you ride the jeepney by yourself, and you can only wish you’ll arrive home unscathed or else.
Even as adults, the youngest siblings are still treated like a child, even without our parents and siblings noticing. It’s a habit they’ve acquired for decades, so it’s something they can’t shake off. We can just sigh, shake our heads, and accept our fate as the family’s bunso.
You always feel the need to prove that you’re old enough to manage your life. Look, I’m an earning individual who pays her taxes and lives independently! Look, I have savings (I don’t)! Look, I can commute back and forth to Manila by myself! Look at me, I’m all adult-like!
There’s a constant desire to show off how much you’ve grown in the past few years, that you’re running out of ways to do so. Maybe buying a car will do the trick. Maybe working in the corporate world will convince them. But who are you kidding? They will always think you still need help getting to the bus station.
No matter how much you’ve achieved in life, no matter how much you’ve grown, you will always be the family’s baby. [Read more…]